Vulnerability is the presence of a sensitivity, a painful hurt or a struggle. In this episode of SelfWork, Dr. Margaret explores how recognizing your vulnerability is pragmatically important in managing mental illness. Accepting and revealing these tender aspects of yourself is also vital in deeply connecting with others, and with developing a greater understanding of […]
Understanding narcissism is difficult. But if you’re a person who’s trying to love someone with a lack of empathy, the tendency to be quite self-involved, and to need an incredible amount of attention or praise, he or she could have narcissism. It’s vital to know what it is and how it affects relationships. What’s important […]
Change, whether it’s welcome and wanted, or unwelcome and difficult, involves stress. Today’s podcast is about living with both kinds, as well as the sometimes bizarre ways people try to avoid the reality of change. What are the most stressful life transitions for adults and children? And what is the most successful way people can […]
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What do Bruce Springsteen (The Boss), Jay Guillermo (collegiate football player), Kid Cude (rapper) and Princess Diana (not the Disney kind) all have in common? They’ve suffered with chronic mental illness, revealed it, and talked openly about it. Prejudice against mental illness is alive and well, but we can all fight it, both within ourselves, […]
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Individual therapy can be emotionally difficult, although well worth it. Couples therapy? In some ways, it’s even harder, as two people who are more or less demoralized try to remedy problems that have been around for quite a while. With both nurturing and directness, Dr. Margaret identifies the four major signs of relationship disaster (researched […]
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Abusive relationships, whether the abuse is emotional, physical or sexual, can be extremely difficult to leave. Yet many people will shrug their shoulders, saying, “If someone treated me like that, I’d be out the door.” What is that old saying? “Walk a mile in my shoes….”. This podcast is all about the complication of abusive […]
Gratitude is a wonderful thing, right? It definitely is when it’s demonstrated and expressed in relationships, whether they be an intimate one, a good friend, or even perhaps with perfect strangers. But can it be a problem? Today we’ll be talking about the importance of gratitude in partnerships, especially when there are children involved. Two […]
Divorce is tough, no matter how amicable. If you or someone you love is considering divorce, this episode of SelfWork will walk you through what you may be able to expect. Dr. Margaret offers some surprising facts about divorce, and reveals six ways to be your best self during what can be a difficult life […]
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What does it mean to feel emotionally grown up? Feeling mature, decisive, not being reactive but responsive, having insight into our own behavior and changing that behavior when it’s appropriate – when we can do these things, we are acting in our adult selves. So much of how or how long that takes depends on what […]
Emotional abuse is very real for many, When it comes from a parent, the damage done can horrific and life-altering. This is a complex issue — and Dr. Margaret talks about it with understanding and compassion for all involved Today’s post describes a mother who meets criteria for what’s termed Borderline Personality Disorder, (BPD) which is a way […]
Loving someone who is trying to heal from depression can be a tough job. So here’s some help! In this podcast, Dr. Margaret gives you tangible tips (Dr. M’s focus is always, “What you can do about it!”) and thoughtful recognitions. Included is a brief rundown of the different modes of depression itself, and special […]
Shame can be a tremendously destructive force in our lives. This podcast will help you learn how to identify shame in yourself, and gives specific suggestions on how to work through it. Shame is usually present in the form of self-loathing or constant thoughts about yourself that are negative or make you feel as if […]
Welcome back to SelfWork! Today’s podcast is all about the skills of listening — really listening. We all get into such bad habits, and learning how to effectively hear and respond to another person, especially someone you love, can make a huge change in how your relationship works and feels. You may have heard yourself […]
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There are many people who never reveal to others, or perhaps even admit to themselves, that they were abused as children. Your victimization might have been physical, emotional, sexual, or through neglect. Shame, feeling somehow that the responsibility was yours, denial or avoidance of pain — all can have a stifling effect on your present […]
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Grief and depression are hard enough to get through at any time of the year. Add the busy nature of the holidays, and that pain can be incredibly lonely to bear. In today’s podcast, Dr. Margaret gives tangible suggestions of both things to do, and recognitions to keep in mind, to help cope with either […]
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Regaining trust, whether it’s after an affair or some other form of betrayal, can be a complex process for any relationship. In this podcast, Dr. Margaret provides the essential steps of healing and regaining trust, specifically after an affair. But she points out that these very steps can be used within any relationship — parent […]
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This podcast is the second in a series of two on what Dr. Margaret calls “Perfectly Hidden Depression.” PHD isn’t a diagnosis, but a syndrome, or group of characteristics that are found together, and serve to help you deny or ignore depression that’s kept far underneath the surface. Your life looks perfect. You’re active and […]
Are you struggling with loneliness, exhaustion, even depression but no one knows it but you? Do you have trouble admitting vulnerability? Do you keep a facade of having it all together, when you realize at some level there’s something wrong? If so, this podcast is for you. Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD) isn’t a diagnosis, but […]
Did you know that anxiety is much more prevalent than depression in our culture? And what’s worse than anxiety or panic? Being anxious or panicked about panic — feeling as if you dread the next hour or day because you don’t know if your anxiety will overwhelm you. Dr. Margaret gives you both information about […]
In her initial podcast, Dr. Margaret focuses on the seven things that keep your work in therapy safe and appropriate. Her “Seven Commandments of Good Therapy” applies to all therapies, and gives you a yardstick to measure a new therapist, or therapy you’re already receiving. It’s amazing how many people keep going to therapy, without […]